its dangerous!

remote communication is a very dangerous addiction...it draws you out not letting you rest. making you talk and listen, write and read all time. not giving you time to reflect and be silent. i refer more to the communication with others. writing email, sending text messages, tweeting all of it trying to tell other people about your thoughts. all of it waiting for responses from others. extreme dependency on others for acknowledgement, results, wishes granted, emotions received. its a terrible kind of dependency that can debilitate. much of it is also not face to face or even voice communication. it is written and sent communication. the kind where people don't have to reveal who they are, where people can phrase their sentences with deliberation and carefully edit what they want to say, successfully masking their true thoughts and feelings, also remotely, one can be a very different person. writing things he or she would never say in person. partly because they are shy to actually say those things or partly because it is a safe way to say things that are inauthentic without being caught out. also written communication has gaps between sending and receiving comunication, these gaps are very stressful gaps. gaps of waiting for responses, waiting to see what the other person feels about what i wrote. awaiting their approval or positive response. that waiting can be very anxiety ridden. first whether or not the other persons would respond and then in what way. this waiting period destroys all those moments in between where you are distracted from what you ought to be focusing on. wondering about the mail you are awaiting or the message tone on yor phone to ring. all the other things you are meant to be doing are done half heartedly because your mind is waiting for the response to your communication. this is tiring and stressful. so cut down remote communciation, either pick up the phone and talk authentically or meet the person and communciate. take away the waiting and uncertainty and fakeness from communication and return to what comunication is meant to do...facilitate life not destroy it.